Dear troubled friend, you asked me for advice the other day and I spoke the truth cause from my point of view, I thought you should give in and support your better half.
Who am I to talk about a perfect marriage when I have 'failed' once? However, I have grown wiser and marriage does not only consist of understanding one person, but each other. Give your MIL a chance and help as she is an elderly and requires alot of love not only from her own children but also her in-laws. And please do not compare because to be honest, as independent as your mum is, when the time comes and she falls ill and you as the only child she depends on and requires your help, your bettter half will have to put up with it and understand. And guess what darling, you WILL need his support. So for now, treat and love your in law like you love your own mother. It's called, FAMILY. You can delete me in ur BB or FB or Twitter for all I care...It didnt bother me at all. Though I must admit that I was concern and wanted to ask how you were handling it?(I never knew you were THAT petty. I guess that explains why you kept on running away)
Whoever said handling in laws were easy?(Well, on my part it is easy) Instead of asking them to understand you? Why not you my dear friend, allow yourself to understand them? And whoever said to handle our own mothers were easy?(you know that answer yourself.)
Please think wisely dear friend and I'm sure with your high level of intelligence, you would understand what I meant by "Dont be selfish."
Loving you always, Melati.
October 15, 2009
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As Salam Rima,
Been a loyal follower of urs be it in Twitter or Blog... =)
This is a touching entry straight from your heart. I can feel that. And I agree with you coz I would do the same too. Everyone's born with flaws and we have to accept that. Hope your friend realise that. Insya'allah. Amin.
Well, read ur entry... Its true, marriage is never easy.Loving ur ML in all aspect is also never easy.But as a DL its ur duty to keep the peace (which not many understand that)cos if not ur husband suffers in silence not knowing wat to do...And indirectly u're not being a good wife.. Always remember ur VOWS... Well,Rima I hope ur friend realises cos if she doesn't then she shld not have gotten married in the first place...
Hi Rima,
I love reading your entries but it has be stagnant lately and always hoped for more of your postings.
By reading all of your entries, I can see that you are a loyal and true person by heart.
A true friend is someone that doest neccessary need to be on their side the whole time but, to understand the matter and advise what's best for them.
Its better telling the truth rather than pretending and just listen while when they are gone, we start bitching on how selfish they are.
My bestfriend and I sustained 13yrs of friendship because we tell the truth and yes there have been ups and downs but we knew that we needed to face the truth and sometimes the truth hurts.
I really hope your friend settles down well with emotions and come to terms with the truth.
Salam,
Nana
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